Dad is important for a healthy developing child

Dr David Popenoe, a research pioneer on fathers and fatherhood says “Fathers are far more than just a ‘second adult’ in the home. An involved father brings positive benefits to his children that no other person is likely to bring.''

Being a good father starts when a man openly treats the mother of his children with affection and respect. The direct effect of a healthy relationship between a mom and dad is a happy family, while the indirect effects are countless.

Dad is more likely to:
  • Be involved.
  • Spend time with his children.
  • Raise children who are emotionally healthy and are able to handle conflict in an appropriate manner.
  • Raise sons who know how to treat a girl and who are less likely to act aggressively toward females.
  • Raise daughters who have healthy relationship norms and are less likely to become involved in abusive or violent relationships later in their lives.

Fathers encourage achievement, while mothers focus on nurturing

A father influences a child’s IQ
A number of studies suggest that fathers who are involved and playful from an early age have children with higher IQs and who do better at school due to their superior linguistic and thinking skills. A baby with an involved father is more likely to feel confident to move, play and explore his or her surroundings, feel emotionally secure, and as they grow - connect better with peers.

How does a father influence a child’s IQ?
Fathers generally spend more time with their children doing something: playing a game, reading a story, building a model car, working in the garden, washing the car, wrestling on the carpet or playing ball- and this is serious learning.
Dr. Ken Canfield, Founder and President of the National Centre for Fathering reckons time spent with kids is what they consider to be love. 

Time spent together makes a father more sensitive to his child’s needs for affection, attention, direction, and discipline.

When does fathering start?

Fathering starts when a man supports the mother of his child during pregnancy; it develops further once his baby is born and he responds to his baby’s cries, holds, comforts, and hugs his baby often. Children thrive when fathers are involved, encourage them, praise their efforts, attend their concerts, or watch their sport. A mom can attend every event, but it is when DAD is there that a child shines!


Fathers who nurture and share in the responsibility of caring for their children from an early age, are significantly less likely to sexually abuse their children. These fathers typically develop such a strong connection with their children that it decreases the likelihood of any maltreatment.
The way fathers treat other people, spend their time and money, and handle the joys and stresses of life, provide a template of living for their children that often proves critical in guiding the behaviour of their children, for better or worse. - F. Mederos
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