Letter to sugar mommies


This is an open letter to all the sugar mommies out there.

The ones who give their and my child too much sugar without thinking about what it does to their bodies, brains and concentration. The ones who looks shocked and sympathises with my child when they hear that he didn’t eat sugar before one year of age and that he’s still not allowed to eat a week’s sweets in one sitting!

Here is what puzzles me most, sometimes the baby or child won’t be asking for it or might lose interest in the piece of cake they were having (probably listening to the signals from their body saying I’ve had enough) and then the mom or dad would literally walk behind them feeding them saying things like “come on, finish your cake now�?. Seriously? Sometimes I see how you watch what you eat, making sure you mainly consume healthy foods so that you can feel and look good, while you let your child eat mainly sweets… Do you know that too much sugar has the same health risks for your child? Do you know that your child can struggle to reach their physical milestones, get tired easily and get teased if they are overweight? And do you know that (if of course there is no medical condition involved) this is your fault? You teach your child the eating habits they have. If you teach them healthy eating habits now the chances are much better that they will be adults with healthy eating habits. Think for example of how you grew up and how that affected your eating habits.

Having a bigger bone structure has nothing to do with this debate, I’m talking healthy, not thin! I’m also not saying that kids shouldn’t ever eat sweets or the occasional junk food, but moderation is the key.

What I am definitely saying is ask me before you give my child or baby something to eat and respect my answer!

Here is how I protect my child from sugar overload:

  1. I never take a hungry child to a kiddies party as there is seldom food for them to eat and to be honest they will probably choose sweets over food in that situation.
  2. Sweets or desert is never given as a reward for finishing their food. It is dished up together with their food so that the connotation of feel-good-reward-food and healthy-I-just-have-to-get-this-over-with food is not made.
  3. I teach them which foods are healthy and make us feel good and which we need to eat in moderation. I then let them (yes a 4 year old can do this) choose how many sweets from the party pack they want to eat and which ones they want to keep for later.
  4. I have healthy snacks readily available in the nappy bag. Cheese, raisins, rice cakes and cherry tomatoes can save you from having to give them something convenient and unhealthy when you are on the go.
  5. I try to spoil my kids with my time and not with something sweet.
  6. I don’t back down when someone rolls their eyes because of what I believe is best for my child. Not even when that someone is a grandparent (wink).

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Share your tips or let me know if you disagree.